Who said nice people always had it easy?
There are all the types of people in this world: nice, boring, overly nice, horrible, rude, sarcastic and much more. And then there are the mixtures of these. But again, these can be shortlisted to two broad categories: Good and bad. We have heard people saying “He is a good person” or “He doesn’t seem to be a good person.” Sure, being a good person is the way of life but what happens when you end up being extremely good with others and when you just can’t be slightly off even when needed. Here are few struggles you face when you are always good with others:
- People will take advantage of you
This happens everywhere. Because you can’t say no, people end up taking advantage of you. You know that they are taking advantage of you, but you think that you are helping them and hence you anyways do it.
- Some may consider you to be fake
Because, “how can anybody be so nice?” Hence you are often given the tag of being fake and sometimes people even wonder whether you have some motive behind being so nice.
- You may attract wrong type of people
You are always good with others, listen to their problems and help them out. Hence sometimes you may attract people with strong emotional needs who always whine and are very demanding. They may feel clingy and needy, thus suffocating you.
- You find making plans a huge task
You are often given the task of making plans. This is because you go to great lengths to fit in everyone’s convenience and timings, most probably putting your own convenience aside.
- No one can actually make out when you are upset
Simply because you don’t show it. You never wear your heart on your sleeve, you never show your emotions and you always pretend that you are happy. This is also because you don’t want to upset others. Hence your mood is rarely noticed.
- You feel guilty when you say no to someone
When someone expects something from you and you say no, the look on their face makes you feel guilty instantly. It also makes you regret your decision. Also, people are not used to hearing a no from you and hence when you do so, it surely surprises them.