Truth to be told – we can’t just cut someone from our life entirely. When we love someone, we give them the whole of us. Even if the relationship doesn’t go anywhere, there is always a part of us that love them eternally. Sadly, it is the same thing that stops us from finding love somewhere else. If you really want to be happy and find absolution in your life, then you shouldn’t think of being friends with your ex. Go through these thoughtful reasons and decide on your own.
- You will never have your individual space|
Even after having a transition from being lovers to friends, they will still be an evident part of your life. You won’t have your own space to heal your heart from the aftermath of your relationship.
- There will always be a “what if” in your life
Getting over your ex could be the toughest thing in the world. They will always be right there – just a phone call or text away. Every time you will hear their voice or see them, you will think of all those “what ifs” and “buts” that could have changed it all.
- You won’t be able to find true love again
Since you would always be stuck in your past relationship, you won’t have enough energy or time to look for something else. Even if you find someone else, they won’t like the thought of you being friends with your ex.
- There will be lots of mixed feelings
Sometimes, you will be jealous of them while there would be times when you will hate them. Sometimes, you would just wish to be with them out of the blue. There would be a hurricane of emotions that might affect your decisions.
- You would keep thinking of getting back together
Every time you would feel alone (which you will), you might just think of getting back together. There would be no moving on. You will always be stuck in that pseudo relationship.
- It will leave your emotionally fragile
Chances are that you won’t be able to take it well. It can even have an emotional impact on you and might leave you fragile and scared. You might even stop believing in the existence of love.
- Your ex would start taking you for granted
If you will always be there for your ex (even as a friend), they might start taking you for granted. Needless to say, it can affect your self-esteem in the long run.
- It will complicate things for others
Not just the two of you, it will complicate things for your friends and family as well. They might find it hard to adjust to this change and can end up upsetting either one of you.
- There will always be some unfinished business
There won’t be any absolution in your relationship. Without putting an end to it, you won’t find closure and would always keep coming back to them. It can turn into a pattern and end up building a toxic relationship.
- Someone will get hurt in the end
In the end, someone will get hurt terribly. If your ex will fall in love with someone else (while still being friends with you), then it might put you in a bad place.
If you really want to have a healthy relationship with your ex, then simply have a formal closure and go separate ways. It might hurt for a while, but it would be good for the both of you in the long run.