I have a record of having quite a few failed relationships in the past. Every time I tried to come out of it, it was not the pain and anguish that took a toll on me. Instead, the way they decided to end things kept me awake for nights. Too many times, people leave in the most unceremonious ways, keeping the other one puzzled for a very long time. It’s okay to break-up with someone, but choosing one of these horrifying ways is a big no-no!
- Over a text
I know it is easier to write things over a text, but have the courage to do it the right way. Don’t just dodge the bullet, just because it is easier for you.
- … Or an email
It is someone’s life we are talking about. You are not forwarding a presentation to your boss. Don’t write a breakup-letter. No.
- In front of friends or family
It would be way too awkward and humiliating for them. No matter how relentless you feel, always have this conversation in private.
- While drunk dialing them
Chances are that you might make an irrational decision while drunk dialing them and can regret it for the rest of your life.
- On a vacation
Why would you ruin a vacation for the both of you? You would be stuck in a foreign place with your ex. Just think about it!
- Right after having sex
This can cause a whole lot of damage to their sense of self-esteem. They might assume that you simply wanted them for sex. Don’t be that person.
- By blocking them on social media
Just another modern way to dodge the bullet. You can block them on social media, but you can’t just run away from them your whole life.
- While giving a cliché
Trust me! No one likes to hear the “It’s not you – it’s me” shit.
- While giving them a false hope
“I can’t be with you… right now.” No. Just don’t do it. Take a stand and don’t leave them hanging in between.
- By not giving a closure
Without having a closure, neither one of you would be able to move on and find peace. There would always be a big “what if” haunting you for the rest of your life.
- Right after crossing a milestone
Don’t break-up with them right after moving-in or dropping the L-word. If you are not sure, then take a step back and contemplate a little instead of simply breaking up.
- By taking them out on a romantic date
This will give them mixed signals for sure. While it could be a big gesture for you, it can be a nightmare for them.
- By asking someone else to do it for you
Why? Seriously, why would you do that?
- By cheating
Not only will it hurt your partner, it would complicate your whole life as well. You won’t be able to forgive yourself for this for a very long time.
Just have a thoughtful conversation with them and give them a reason. Don’t make it a public affair. Keep things between the two of you and try to part ways happily. Don’t let your breakup ruin your entire relationship and all those amazing memories associated with it. After all, everyone deserves a closure.