When I was in my early 20s, dating was more fun. I would go out with an open perspective without expecting anything at all. As I grew up, I realized how drastically the dating game changes with time. If you are running in your late 20s or early 30s, chances are that you are more sorted (and sane) than your younger-self. Needless to say, you no longer go out and meet people the same way as well.
- You are not hesitant to try something new
You realize that you are no longer living in a box and become unafraid to take a leap of faith. From meeting people on dating apps to simply going with the flow, you do it all without any hesitation.
- You get attracted to intelligence
It is not the location or the food that you remember after a great date. Instead, those thoughtful conversations keep lingering in your mind for a long time. Someone’s intelligence starts being a major turn-on for you.
- You no longer tolerate nonsense
Drama, backstabbing, lies, mind games – you just don’t have the time to handle them.
- You start appreciating others
You became a great listener and like to hear someone else’s stories. Instead of contemplating its authenticity at the back of your mind, you appreciate its depth.
- You stop looking for something “casual” and “fun”
Because you just can’t waste your time being someone’s second priority.
- You no longer have the same deal-breakers
The way people look, their background, occupation, etc. takes a drop on your list. You realize that life is short and none of these things really matter in the long haul.
- You start asking more direct questions
Frankly, you just don’t have the time to beat around the bush. If you and your date want two different things in life, then there is no reason to give them a call afterward.
- You stop comparing your life with others
You learn that everyone has to undertake their own journey. Instead of comparing things with others, you make peace with yourself.
- You have a sorted list of priorities
You know how important your relationship is and have managed to keep your career out of it.
- You begin to understand that people are irreplaceable
After falling in and out of love so many times, you learn that it is possible to fall in love again. Though, you can never love someone the exact way, because unlike things, people can’t be replaced.
- And that you can’t really change them entirely
Most importantly, you realize that you can’t be with a wrong person, hoping for them to be changed overnight. Instead of settling for something mediocre, you walk away to pursue your own happiness.
You change your priorities and no longer meet anyone casually. You know your time is precious and that it is better to be single (and happy) than to be with someone (and feel miserable). After all, you are no longer the same person. You have outgrown yourself and can’t wait to experience what the world has to offer!